Is it human nature to live our lives married to one person?

Will it work if we surpress our own natural instincts to fit in with a general perception.Is it human nature to live our lives married to one person?
Not sure being married is human nature...Mate for life? Maybe for women. For men, I think is actually un natural. Its that thing between our legs that gets us in trouble...Is it human nature to live our lives married to one person?
Actually it is not. It is however, socially expected.


Human nature would be to switch mates as we age and change.


However, raising children complicates that. It is best for two adults to raise children, even if it is two men or two woman.


Our current arrangement in society for family and marriage is not to follow human nature it is to have a stable civilized society. Everyone changing mates would bring a lot of highly disruptive. We should have to rethink how we view our society.
I've read some interesting studies suggesting that people naturally tend to bond for approximately four years. The theory is that this allowed the woman to bear and raise a child until it was able to walk and forage while the father was around to help provide, then pair up with another mate to further diversify the gene pool. So the ';seven year itch'; is really a four year itch.
Thats something you would have to research ; You would have to ask God about it .The bible says its better to marry than to burn.
Human nature is a bottomless pit, and philosophers, scientists, psychologists have still, and never will, give one satisfactory answer. It’s like asking, “What is life?”


As far as how some practices became traditions, then they are mostly all different branches coming off the same tree. During the Neanderthal days, when humans were just hunter-gatherers, obviously there were no concepts laid out for an individual on how to react %26amp; behave. The sole purpose of living was to cater to the call of the body – carnal, hunger, sleep, etc..


It is said by anthropologists that marriage was one concept which emerged when humans began settling down, started farming, building clans, societies, kingdoms, and eventually countries.


The beginnings of marriage were initially probably just to occupy territories, obtain land, get money (cash or kind), and procreation was just a result of that union. Procreation was not considered important then, but automatic, hence the reason why there were many marriage partners, and many marriages. This was thousands of yrs ago.





Slowly this need confined itself to fewer partners….and so we have come to this day. There are still many societies and cultures that are polygamous, so again marriages are interpreted differently in different religions %26amp; societies, but with the same underlying thought of providing carnal relief, companionship, and procreation.





Yes, human beings have animalistic tendencies and all married or monogamous couples feel the urge to stray sometimes (or shall I say all the time), but some practices have been put in place simply to make a place habitable and civilized, and humans are the only blessed ‘animals’ who have the ability to contain emotions and actions all by themselves. Or else if there were no guidelines we’ll end up killing and roasting each other if we can’t find a good steak in the vicinity.





I agree with tbteddy6 in that that bringing children complicates things, because u need to raise them in a way where they r able to make good judgments when they r older, and not just follow the norm that was laid out by them by promiscuous parents. Giving a well-rounded upbringing is difficult even when following traditions to the T.





It is fine if you want to be promiscuous in following your instincts, and u should lead ur life by what suits u best. But then, if u choose to be promiscuous physically, then u also choose to have multiple “emotional” partners, and that is where the catch is. For as much as humans crave sex, they also crave the need to love and be loved, and then this becomes contradictory. Yet, if u choose to make home with one, and still have a little swing now and then, with ur partner being aware %26amp; fine with it (and u with her), then who has the right to raise any question? It may not be that I, or anyone else in the forum may agree, but then again, we r not leading ur life, so we shouldn’t have any say, and nor should it matter to u.


Only u know best why %26amp; what’s going on within u. :) Good luck!